First of all, meeting a "respectable" suitor in my age demographic is not only virtually impossible; but it is exhausting. Here are some tips I have gathered from friends, family members, and personal experience dealing with the drunken, 25 year old male.
Meeting someone in a bar is threatening. Single people go to bars to hook up; get loose, silly. Not to have meaningful conversation over a bud light. A friend once told me she met her fiance at a whole foods. They grabbed the same bag of dried lentils. I nearly gagged on the mental image.
Girls always know when you're staring at our "lady parts", so please, in the seven minutes it will take you to ask for my number and a variety of other interview questions; make eye contact. Pay attention. That's the only way we are going to answer your text message is if you at least pretend you're truly interested.
It doesn't matter how much a girl may seem to be "one of the guys". We are all sensitive, scared little rabbits who would rather be worshiped than made fun of. So if you are still into the kinder garden style of flirting (you know, you tease the one you have a crush on), get over it, it is not getting you anywhere. Women would rather be called pretty than "dude".
I could probably go on for pages ranting about the things man children do to try to coerce women into the sick world of dating, but these are just a few that stick out on a regular basis.
Chances are, if you are honest and upfront from the beginning, the possibilities of a first date are more than you started with.
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